The fate of men and women in war zones

Today, I ran across another example which declares women to be disproportionately burdened in areas in which conflict is an everyday reality. The brochure asserts that

women and girls are disproportionately and sometimes uniquely burdened – particularly in the Gaza Strip.

The only element of their case that seems gender-specific (as most are general consequences of the poverty typically found in such areas) is the following:

Frequent Israeli military attacks have left a large number of women in Gaza on their own to raise their families. Pal-Think for Strategic Studies estimates that in just the aftermath of the
23-day Israeli military operation called “Cast Lead” in 2008-2009, more than 800 new widows were created. These widows suffer from insecure incomes and constant feelings of threat and insecurity, high levels of anxiety and concern about lack of access to education and other services for them and their children.

In other words, these women seem to be oppressively not getting killed. Reminds me a bit of Hillary Clinton who argued as follows in a speech:

Women have always been the primary victims of war. Women lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat. ...

Men are indeed more likely to die in conflict areas so if this is indeed a disproportionate burden on women how can it be resolved? The only two possible resolutions seem to be to push for fewer male deaths (rather than just deaths as a whole) which doesn't exactly sound like a feminist cause, or to push for more female deaths which, fairly obviously, seems an extremely stupid idea.

I should add that the feminist argument that seems to amount to women being oppressively less likely to die also applies a bit more generally. Take, for example, the suicide rate amongst male farmers in India:

Two hundred and seventy thousand Indian farmers have committed suicide since Monsanto entered the Indian seed market. That’s more than a quarter-million. It’s a genocide. And every farmer who commits suicide leaves behind a widow. For me, this is a prime example of violence against women through violent economic means.